RANT

I don't rant or get on my soap box very often (I mean who am I to preach, I'm a barely salted in the adult world.) but for the last few weeks I've had multiple very interesting discussions with multiple friends about Femininity.

(Here are my opinions... and for the like 5 people who actually read this blog feel free to not read this.)

I feel like I am a very feminine person but I feel like the idea of femininity is becoming more and more confused. Being feminine isn't about wearing heels and dresses everyday. It's not about looking perfect every second. It's about loving yourself, realizing the and embracing the qualities that make you a women. It's about being the best you that you can be. Sure it makes you feel better when you take the time to wake up early and get ready. It makes you feel better when you're working out regularly and eating healthy. But if feels better because you are showing you that you care about yourself.

Femininity is indescribable, it's power unmeasurable. The power of femininity has built up and brought down some of history's most powerful kingdoms ( I mean just read the Bible or any historical novel.) It's like both men and women are fighting to be masculine, like we woman have something to prove. Women have nothing to prove, we just are. To act as if we have to prove something says we feel inadequate. We don't value our strength. Femininity has so much depth, it's so mysterious and intangible, how could you not love it?

Femininity doesn't mean a woman can't be independent or strong, it isn't about money. It's about spirit. Femininity is not a weakness. In my opinion it's about a woman not trying to being anything other than a woman. She does not do anything to bring negative attention to herself, she conducts herself in a way that makes it hard for people to disrespect her. She is gentle in her approach to everything. Gentle does not equal being a doormat. She is pleasing to the senses without being provocative and vulgar.

That being said I was talking to my dear friend, Amanda, who lives in Texas and we got chatting about being women and she pointed out what a double edge sword it can be sometimes. She said something like, But people only think girls are funny when they're channeling there male humor, Consequently, femininity is almost always compromised when a lady makes a lad laugh, isn't it? I got to thinking and I'm going to have to say NO. We all know I can sometimes have the humor or a 13 year old male but I never think my femininity is questioned because I know I fully embrace being born a girl.

Here is my advice. Learn to love being a girl, learn that smiling gets you what you want faster than yelling, learn that an extra coat of mascara or a new lip gloss might not make your day better but it might make you feel better about your day, learn that you are unique and embrace that.

God made you to be smart, and sexy, and sweet-meets-sassy. So quit living such boring, bossy and unbelievably selfish lives.You'll notice a difference and I can guarantee that others will too.